When I was a kid, we were rarely asked why we did this or that, or what we thought or felt about anything. This is not to knock our parents, who loved us dearly but felt that they didn’t need to have many heart-to-heart discussions with a 7-year-old.
Then parenting began to change. “In the 1980s and 1990s, there was a greater understanding in academia about the importance of self-esteem and the notion of attachment parenting,” said Dr. Ben Michaelis, clinical psychologist and author of Your Next Big Thing: 10 Small Steps to Get Moving and Get Happy. “Two or three decades ago, there was more of a focus on what kids were doing rather than what kids were feeling.”