Relationships Archives - Ben Michaelis, PhD

“Small ways you can be a better friend” – The List

Over the course of your life, many different friendships will begin and end. They’ll ebb and flow as you grow and your life changes, through big moves, breakups, new jobs, engagements and weddings, or the journey towards starting a family, if that’s what you choose. There are all different kinds of friends — old friends […]

“7 Signs Your Friend Group Is Toxic” – Health

In the penultimate episode of HBO’s Girls, the four main characters squeeze into a bathroom for a group meeting that’s meant to be healing, but instead serves the final nail in the coffin of their friendship. “I have come to realize how exhausting and narcissistic and ultimately boring this whole dynamic is,” says Shoshanna (Zosia Mamet), defending her decision not to […]

“Why every relationship could benefit from couple’s therapy” – The List

When we picture couple’s therapy, we often think of a married couple’s relationship in which one person has discovered the other is cheating, or in which one person is just no longer feeling the spark anymore. Generally, couple’s therapy has been shown to lead to significant improvements in relationship matters, but these studies are traditionally […]

“Stop Feeling Bad About Ghosting” – Tonic

It’s better for you than you think.   For many reasons, the first few weeks of January are the busiest time of year for dating apps. And as singles turn back to their phones with the hope that this is the year they find love, it’s helpful to remember the cardinal rule of not wasting your time: Ghosting is now an acceptable way to end […]

“Rupert Murdoch and Jerry Hall? The Fascination of Odd Couples” – New York Times

But it’s slightly bizarre when your otherwise hip and socially liberal friends make the same kind of comments, particularly when the couples in question are not on the child-producing or child-rearing path. What’s going on here? How is this any different from racism or homophobia? “It’s absolutely not different in almost all ways but one: […]

Violence and Valentine's Day

This Valentine’s Day whether you are in a happy, loving, committed relationship or you are one of the many people who will be celebrating “Singles Awareness Day(link is external),” one of the things that you may bethankful for is a brief reprieve fromdomestic violence. Although there is anecdotal evidence that Valentine’s Day is connected to a […]

"The 20 Best Things You Can Do For Your Relationship" – Redbook

Spend time each week, maybe it’s every Friday night, talking about your hopes and aspirations as a couple, and think about what will make you happiest going forward. You can say, ‘We’ll buy a house in our favorite neighborhood within five years.’ or, ‘We’ll hvae another kid by next summer,’ or even, ‘We’ll eventually visit […]