relationship Archives - Ben Michaelis, PhD

“Why every relationship could benefit from couple’s therapy” – The List

When we picture couple’s therapy, we often think of a married couple’s relationship in which one person has discovered the other is cheating, or in which one person is just no longer feeling the spark anymore. Generally, couple’s therapy has been shown to lead to significant improvements in relationship matters, but these studies are traditionally […]

“Stop Feeling Bad About Ghosting” – Tonic

It’s better for you than you think.   For many reasons, the first few weeks of January are the busiest time of year for dating apps. And as singles turn back to their phones with the hope that this is the year they find love, it’s helpful to remember the cardinal rule of not wasting your time: Ghosting is now an acceptable way to end […]

“Three’s company: Singles and their coupled pals share apartments” – Chicago Tribune

“All couples disagree,” said Dr. Ben Michaelis, a New York clinical psychologist who’s seen all manner of unique living configurations. “But some couples handle disagreements in stride with good coping mechanisms, while others end up with intense screaming matches involving broken dishes.” Roommates don’t want to feel like they should choose a side, he added. […]

“Rupert Murdoch and Jerry Hall? The Fascination of Odd Couples” – New York Times

But it’s slightly bizarre when your otherwise hip and socially liberal friends make the same kind of comments, particularly when the couples in question are not on the child-producing or child-rearing path. What’s going on here? How is this any different from racism or homophobia? “It’s absolutely not different in almost all ways but one: […]

"The 20 Best Things You Can Do For Your Relationship" – Redbook

Spend time each week, maybe it’s every Friday night, talking about your hopes and aspirations as a couple, and think about what will make you happiest going forward. You can say, ‘We’ll buy a house in our favorite neighborhood within five years.’ or, ‘We’ll hvae another kid by next summer,’ or even, ‘We’ll eventually visit […]

"Digital 'friends' No Replacement For The Personal Touch" – Chicago Tribune

Devoting tech-free time to the people you love is crucial, said Ben Michaelis, clinical psychologist and author of “Your Next Big Thing: Ten Small Steps to Get Moving and Get Happy” (Wolf Street Press). That means spending time with the people who matter most without using your phone for distraction. “The deepest forms of connection […]

Are Phones Ruining Your Relationship? 'The Addiction Is Real!' – TODAY Show

Clinical Psychologist Ben Michaelis talks to Kathie Lee and guest co-host Jenna Bush Hager about a trend that you’ve probably noticed, or not: Couples looking down at their phones instead of talking to each other. Michaelis shares tips to help you focus on being present, rather than just being in someone’s presence. Originally aired on […]

"6 Co-Parenting Tips That Really Work" – Healthline

Divorce can be hard on all of the parties involved, especially children. Separated and divorced parents will still need to communicate in order to make decisions about their kids. While it can be challenging to have a neutral relationship with an ex, it’s important to try and separate those feelings from your parenting duties. We […]