Love Archives - Page 3 of 4 - Ben Michaelis, PhD

Dear Anonymous, I Love You

In August 2013 Robbi Behr of Chestertown, Maryland, discovered a small, beautiful bouquet of flowers on her doorstep. The attached card, which was addressed to Robbi and her husband Matthew read, “A small gift to brighten your day.” The card was signed by Chester York. However, neither Robbi nor Matthew knew anyone named Chester York. […]

"8 Questions to Ask Before Having Sex with Him" – SHAPE

Are you Friends With Your Ex? The way he talks about past relationships can be revealing, says New York-based psychologist Ben Michaelis, Ph.D., author or Your Next Big Thing: Ten Small Steps to Get Moving and Get Happy. “If he’s respectful when talking about an ex-lover, that’s a good sign that he’ll be respectful of […]

How to Ruin Mother's Day

Overnight shipping from Amazon. Panicked, last minute phone calls to florists. Saturday night drug store runs to track down the last Mother’s Day card. Just this once, forget about all that. This Mother’s Day, do something different. Do something radical. Do something, dare I say, sacrilegious: Don’t buy your mother a gift. Before you throw your Whitman’s […]

Unrequited Love Can Serve You Well If You Let It; The Benefits Of Rejection

Heartbreak hurts. Rejection can make us lash out. But when you’re ready, it can all be an opportunity for personal transformation “You tell me.” My unrequited love and I were standing outside a party when I’d finally mustered the nerve to ask what we were. He briefly turned away, so I prompted him again. After […]

Why Marriage Talk Can Shut Some Men Down

…And perhaps more importantly, why we have so much trouble bringing it up with them Ben Michaelis, Ph.D., clinical psychologist and author of Your Next Big Thing, thinks it comes down to brain development: “The idea of marriage is both incredibly simple and highly sophisticated,” he says. “When you think of marrying someone, you’re envisioning growing […]