Love Archives - Ben Michaelis, PhD

“Why every relationship could benefit from couple’s therapy” – The List

When we picture couple’s therapy, we often think of a married couple’s relationship in which one person has discovered the other is cheating, or in which one person is just no longer feeling the spark anymore. Generally, couple’s therapy has been shown to lead to significant improvements in relationship matters, but these studies are traditionally […]

“Stop Feeling Bad About Ghosting” – Tonic

It’s better for you than you think.   For many reasons, the first few weeks of January are the busiest time of year for dating apps. And as singles turn back to their phones with the hope that this is the year they find love, it’s helpful to remember the cardinal rule of not wasting your time: Ghosting is now an acceptable way to end […]

“Three’s company: Singles and their coupled pals share apartments” – Chicago Tribune

“All couples disagree,” said Dr. Ben Michaelis, a New York clinical psychologist who’s seen all manner of unique living configurations. “But some couples handle disagreements in stride with good coping mechanisms, while others end up with intense screaming matches involving broken dishes.” Roommates don’t want to feel like they should choose a side, he added. […]

“Rupert Murdoch and Jerry Hall? The Fascination of Odd Couples” – New York Times

But it’s slightly bizarre when your otherwise hip and socially liberal friends make the same kind of comments, particularly when the couples in question are not on the child-producing or child-rearing path. What’s going on here? How is this any different from racism or homophobia? “It’s absolutely not different in almost all ways but one: […]

Violence and Valentine's Day

This Valentine’s Day whether you are in a happy, loving, committed relationship or you are one of the many people who will be celebrating “Singles Awareness Day(link is external),” one of the things that you may bethankful for is a brief reprieve fromdomestic violence. Although there is anecdotal evidence that Valentine’s Day is connected to a […]

Will He Cheat? Don't Check His Phone, Check His Credit

How can you tell if your relationship will go the distance? Unconditional love? Shared dreams? Great sex? Actually, it seems that in the long term, one of the best predictors of relationship success has nothing to do with any of the factors that you probably think of when you are deciding who to marry. Brand […]