Love and Relationships Archives - Ben Michaelis, PhD

“How to Know If You’re in an Emotionally Abusive Relationship” – the List

The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence reports on their domestic violence fact sheets that almost 20 people are physically abused by a partner every single minute. Nationally, domestic violence hotlines across the country get about 20,800 calls every day. The numbers are staggering, and it’s very disturbing to think about all the people who live […]

“Signs You’re Not Ready to Get Married” – The List

Getting married is a big deal. People spend years planning for their big day, spending huge swaths of money and inviting everyone they know to join in the festivities. And once the wedding’s over and the thank you notes are sent, you start your new life with your main partner-in-crime by your side. From then […]

“7 Signs Your Friend Group Is Toxic” – Health

In the penultimate episode of HBO’s Girls, the four main characters squeeze into a bathroom for a group meeting that’s meant to be healing, but instead serves the final nail in the coffin of their friendship. “I have come to realize how exhausting and narcissistic and ultimately boring this whole dynamic is,” says Shoshanna (Zosia Mamet), defending her decision not to […]

“Why every relationship could benefit from couple’s therapy” – The List

When we picture couple’s therapy, we often think of a married couple’s relationship in which one person has discovered the other is cheating, or in which one person is just no longer feeling the spark anymore. Generally, couple’s therapy has been shown to lead to significant improvements in relationship matters, but these studies are traditionally […]

“Rupert Murdoch and Jerry Hall? The Fascination of Odd Couples” – New York Times

But it’s slightly bizarre when your otherwise hip and socially liberal friends make the same kind of comments, particularly when the couples in question are not on the child-producing or child-rearing path. What’s going on here? How is this any different from racism or homophobia? “It’s absolutely not different in almost all ways but one: […]

Will He Cheat? Don't Check His Phone, Check His Credit

How can you tell if your relationship will go the distance? Unconditional love? Shared dreams? Great sex? Actually, it seems that in the long term, one of the best predictors of relationship success has nothing to do with any of the factors that you probably think of when you are deciding who to marry. Brand […]

"Dating Lessons From Teenagers" – AskMen

Teenagers, who as we all know are blessed (and cursed) with a crush of hormones, tend to approach dating with excitement, adventure, and a spirit of experimentation that many of us lose when we reach adulthood. “One of the things that teens tend to do, but grown-ups don’t, is allowing for dates to be organic […]