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"The Science Behind Sticking to Your Resolutions" – O the Oprah Magazine

“So often, we set goals but lack a clear idea of what success should really look like,” says Ben Michaelis, PhD, a clinical psychologist in New York City. “Then when we come up short, we feel worthless.” Rethink your strategy, says Michaelis. Before you embark on any life changes, outline a range of positive outcomes […]

"The 20 Best Things You Can Do For Your Relationship" – Redbook

Spend time each week, maybe it’s every Friday night, talking about your hopes and aspirations as a couple, and think about what will make you happiest going forward. You can say, ‘We’ll buy a house in our favorite neighborhood within five years.’ or, ‘We’ll hvae another kid by next summer,’ or even, ‘We’ll eventually visit […]

"Got Laid Off? Here Are the First 4 Things You Should Do" – LearnVest

Losing a job can be incredibly traumatic. Even if you knew office cutbacks were likely, getting a pink slip is still a huge shock to your system. It’s likely that both your professional self-esteem and your financial security have taken a hit, and it can be easy to feel a bit lost in the aftermath. […]

"5 Body-Positive Resolutions You Should Make in 2016"- Health

With 2016 just a few days away, you’re probably thinking about your New Year’s resolution. While we’re all for making a plan to slim down, get fit, or eat better, we hope you’ll remember to cultivate love and respect for your body along the way. We spoke with Ben Michaelis, PhD, clinical psychologist and author of […]

"How to Use Bright Lights to Bust the Winter Blues" – Health

This time of year, it’s hard not to feel the winter blues. The shorter days and limited sunlight leave many of us with seasonal affective disorder (SAD), a type of depression that hits during the winter months. Luckily, there are a few therapies that can successfully treat SAD—most notably cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) and light therapy. CBT, which is a form of talk therapy, […]

We’re All Addicts Now

Substances such as cocaine or alcohol are so pernicious in the way they colonize the mind that to do battle with them takes a particular brand of courage. As difficult as the road to recovery can be, I have found that many times the struggle that occurs inside the body and mind during recovery can be […]

"How to keep politics off the table at Thanksgiving" – Chicago Tribune

Many families are familiar with one recurring Thanksgiving appetizer: political banter. Whether it’s a cousin passing out “Feel the Bern” stickers or Donald Trump trumpeting on television in the background, many dread the moment when high-blood-pressure topics overshadow the turkey. New York-based clinical psychologist Dr. Ben Michaelis said this very concern was a source of […]

Will He Cheat? Don't Check His Phone, Check His Credit

How can you tell if your relationship will go the distance? Unconditional love? Shared dreams? Great sex? Actually, it seems that in the long term, one of the best predictors of relationship success has nothing to do with any of the factors that you probably think of when you are deciding who to marry. Brand […]

"Is Being Scared Actually Good for You?"- Healthline

Raise your hand if you’re going to a haunted house this weekend, lining up to see the latest big screen shriek-fest, or summoning spirits with a Ouija board. We usually avoid situations where we’re likely to be afraid. We may dread them, but some experts are saying that feelings of fear and anxiety could actually […]