But it’s slightly bizarre when your otherwise hip and socially liberal friends make the same kind of comments, particularly when the couples in question are not on the child-producing or child-rearing path. What’s going on here? How is this any different from racism or homophobia?
“It’s absolutely not different in almost all ways but one: It is tolerated in our society,” said Ben Michaelis, a clinical psychologist. “Unfortunately when people don’t understand certain other people, they tend to place them as an out group, psychologically. Then one of the ways they bring their psyches back into balance is to lower these out groups, and the other way is to attack them.”