“Many times, [losing a job creates] a good opportunity to figure out the next steps for ourselves—what is working, and what isn’t,” says behavioral expert Dr. Ben Michaelis, author of “Your Next Big Thing: 10 Small Steps to Get Moving and Get Happy” and a practicing clinical psychologist in New York City. But you can’t envision those new possibilities if you’re thinking only about all the negative things that come with getting laid off.